Is Couples Therapy Worth it?

Should I go to Couples Therapy?

As a therapist, I often say I work with the same few core issues: anxiety, depression, trauma, self-esteem, interpersonal struggles, etc., but no two cases ever look the same. Why? Because no two people are alike. This is why relationships, especially romantic ones, can be so challenging to navigate.

We all bring different perspectives, different communication styles, different needs, and expectations. And when we try to merge our lives with someone else’s, those differences don’t disappear - they show up. Sometimes loudly.

In fact, I tell every one of my couples: it is easier to be alone. When you’re alone, you don’t have to take on someone else’s experience. You don’t have to consider their needs, reactions, wounds, or worldview. But in a relationship, you’re constantly bumping up against another mind. That can be beautiful. It can also be deeply frustrating.

So… Is couples therapy worth it, and should I go?

If you're asking the question whether you should go to couples therapy, there’s probably something inside your relationship that feels confusing, misaligned, or stuck. But therapy doesn’t have to be a last resort. In fact, it shouldn’t be. Couples therapy isn’t about choosing sides. It’s about creating a shared space to explore both perspectives and to develop tolerance. It’s not about fixing your partner. It’s about understanding how you interact and how your histories and defenses collide. And it’s not about staying together at all costs. It’s about increasing awareness, so whatever path you choose is grounded in clarity and care. If you’ve been wondering, “Should we go to couples therapy?”—I’d invite you to reframe the question: Are we willing to understand each other more deeply? If the answer is yes, therapy can help you achieve this goal.